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Old August 13th, 2017, 04:11 AM
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Re: Need opinions about my situation with my parents!! Please help

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Originally Posted by gewibongew View Post
Also, how do i do so i don't take ANY habbit from them? I want to be the exact opposite,as a parent.
KayKay is doing a great job, so I read and did not reply. I agree with everything she is saying.

You may not see your stepfather as a role-model, but your anger is modeling his behavior. You probably are doing this automatically, just reflecting the emotion you are seeing. You have to become more aware that you do this and very purposely control your own emotions. Look to other men and consciously try to adopt their reactions when they are dealing with stress. Practice it in your imagination.

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Also,Am I the one to blame for all these situations? Because afterwards,their response to all that was "Other parents would just have beat the crap out of you for what you did."
You are not to blame for these situations. You have a part in it when you're not doing your chores, but you don't deserve to be beaten or have trash dumped all over your room. Your stepfather is mean and, imo, abusive. You can't change him. You can't fix him. The best you can do is to be compliant where you can be, like taking out the trash quickly, and get things together so you can move out after graduation.
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