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Old April 12th, 2017, 07:35 AM
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Re: What does DS want from me?

This is a rough situation.

I think it will help if you separate the two relationships, your son's and your ex's. It sounds like you blame your son for the failure of the relationship, and your son may very well feel like you would choose your ex over him. He doesn't understand that those are two very different relationships that shouldn't require a choice.

With your ex having left, focus on your relationship with your son and try to make that healthy. Try to help your son get healthy.

Your son's bad behavior may be due to jealousy as you say, or he may have something else going on, like prolonged grief disorder, an anxiety disorder, or another trauma he hasn't shared with you. He will be 18 shortly, but he's not, yet. You are the mother, and he lives in your house. You can make counseling a condition of his remaining in your house. He might not like it and he might resist it, but a good counselor will know how to work around that. This is what your son needs, even if he doesn't know what he wants.

Good luck. You're a good mom wanting the best for her son.
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