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Old January 4th, 2016, 04:15 AM
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Re: I think they all hate me!

You clearly suspect this isn't about space, but about respect and support from your wife. 16 years means she is old enough to be your mother, and she sounds like she's treating you like the step-child here. You say you don't want your family to hate you. Well, they don't respect your needs. Is that really better?

Find a reasonable solution that you and your wife can agree to. Children do not get a vote. Ex: you get the garage cleaned up so you have your own space, also understanding that it will be shared among other family members. They may get a corner, but really each child should have their own space elsewhere. Can you set up a nice basement or attic storage, or add a shed? The 24 year old is right about outside storage, but she should be thinking her own place now.

If your wife rejects a compromise, gives priority to her children, and/or ignores and belittles your needs, then you need to go the marriage counseling route because they are evidence that the argument isn't about space, but about respect.

Good luck to you!
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