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Old June 28th, 2017, 03:20 AM
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Re: arrrgggg! DM

My mum did this all my life and when she lived with us. Once I learned it was a game because she didn't know how to express her requests directly I started dealing differently. I'd been conditioned to feel guilty and be a scapegoat all my life. When I started to take and act what my mother said at face value and not rise when she would get frustrated at me not acting on her hidden messages (and I knew when they were hidden messages). She then realised the only way for me to do what she really wanted wad to ask me directly. If she strops I remove myself and the kids from her environment.
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