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Old October 2nd, 2007, 01:14 PM
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Re: DH Threw me under the bus...

1dil gave good advice... you could also smoke a fatty every day... not that I'm advocating drug use or anything
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Old October 2nd, 2007, 01:34 PM
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Re: DH Threw me under the bus...

Wow, I'm so sorry that has happened. If your DH doesn't get things planned out to keep FIL happy, you may want to start making plans to keep you and the kids out of the house, away for him, as much as possible. Inconveniant, yes....good for your sanity, yes! Go to friends' houses, do things around town like game places or movies...places that you and your kids can have fun together. Good luck!
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Old October 2nd, 2007, 02:05 PM
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Re: DH Threw me under the bus...

The only thing I would like to say is DON'T make the camper too comfortable. That would be planting the seed in their minds that it is ok for fil to come out as often as poss and use the camper to stay in. If you want to discourage visits make it as uncomfortable as possible.
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DH is trying to show FIL a grand time - and have a great bonding experience - at the expense of my sanity.
Pitiful.

There'd be no 'bonding' between me and DH until he fixed this mess. Put the camper in the state park. Take the kids to Busch gardens. If FIL can't afford to visit, then FIL does not visit.

I can't afford a pied a terre in Paris, so guess what? I don't have a little vacation flat in Paris.

Why would you not throw a hissy fit?
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Old October 2nd, 2007, 02:40 PM
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Re: DH Threw me under the bus...

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The only thing I would like to say is DON'T make the camper too comfortable. That would be planting the seed in their minds that it is ok for fil to come out as often as poss and use the camper to stay in. If you want to discourage visits make it as uncomfortable as possible.
That's true, too.

Thanks for the compliment vavoom. I found a smiley to go with your advice.


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Old October 2nd, 2007, 03:04 PM
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GUILT -

That is why DH is doing this..

FIL called earlier this week and was throwing guilit - he wanted US to go to WI to visit them... (ain't gonna happen) - because "he wanted all his family to get together before he died...."

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I hate when people say things like this! It's such manipulation, unless they're really terminally ill. It makes me wanna say "Okay, but do you promise to die after it's all over?"

I apologize if FIL is terminally ill.
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Old October 2nd, 2007, 07:02 PM
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I hate when people say things like this! It's such manipulation, unless they're really terminally ill. It makes me wanna say "Okay, but do you promise to die after it's all over?"

I apologize if FIL is terminally ill.

No he is not terminally ill... but my initial reaction to his guilt quote was...

"Can you make it a twofer? We'll come visit - and you have to die while we are there so we don't have to come back for the funeral..."
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Re: DH Threw me under the bus...

I understand that some people may have issues with their ILs; however, to joke about their death is just wrong on so many levels.
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Old October 2nd, 2007, 08:01 PM
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I understand that some people may have issues with their ILs; however, to joke about their death is just wrong on so many levels.
It is equally wrong to use "pending death" as a guilt card...
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or suicide, my mil pulled that one.
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