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Old October 8th, 2016, 01:48 PM
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Re: Please, help me to make a decision

Most of the posters here are American. The equivalent of that would be the people who go to Mexico for procedures that are either illegal or really expensive here. I would never recommend that.

However, this is totally your decision. All we can do is encourage you to trust your instincts and keep looking if you don't like where you were.
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Hi, Lucy. I know that everything depends on me cause Ií m the one to make decision. However, I want to talk with someone. You know, ethical questions are also important for me. I wouldnít like to deal with the clinic that scams its patients. I wonít also choose the one that isnít ethical enough. I mean the clinic that pays to little to its donors. I think when the woman donates its eggs she makes a great gift to a woman that is infertile so she deserves the best from the bestÖ
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Re: Please, help me to make a decision

mickey2016, none of us have any experience with your specific situation. I'm afraid we can't offer much advice.

The only thing any of us have been able to say is "trust your instinct." Your instinct seems to not want to go to that place. I'm not sure how much more any of us can contribute?
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Re: Please, help me to make a decision

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Hi, Lucy. I know that everything depends on me cause Ií m the one to make decision. However, I want to talk with someone. You know, ethical questions are also important for me. I wouldnít like to deal with the clinic that scams its patients. I wonít also choose the one that isnít ethical enough. I mean the clinic that pays to little to its donors. I think when the woman donates its eggs she makes a great gift to a woman that is infertile so she deserves the best from the bestÖ
Mickey2016, it sounds to me like you need to speak with someone face-to-face. Truthfully, I've studied in the field of bioethics, and my opinion is that egg donation and most IVF treatments are not ethical. In the very least, they are expensive with a very low rate of success. Who's getting paid? Not the donors.

I would advise you to seek out someone who does NaProTechnology. It's natural. It's cost effective. It doesn't carry the ethical dilemmas of other treatments.
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Old October 20th, 2016, 12:51 AM
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Re: Please, help me to make a decision

Hi, Lucy. You are quite right! I really need someone to talk with about my health issue. I also agree that fertility treatment isnít always an ethical one. All fertility clinics are divided into two big groups: expensive and cheap ones. In Ukraine reproductive clinics are rather cheap, but I worry about the ethical side of the ED program. The donor does get some money, but are they really paid well? I reckon itís fair to give the women who donate their eggs the best from the best!
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Old October 23rd, 2016, 07:10 AM
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Hi, mickey2016. I donít know why youíve chosen this country! Ukraine is a poor country. Itís at war now. My sister used to be there last year. She told me that this country is really beautiful. The people who live there are very kind. They are always ready to help. But the country is at a political and economic crisis now. I donít think you should choose it as your final destination.
P.S. Why donít you want to try to deal with a clinic at the place where you live?
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Old October 27th, 2016, 10:40 PM
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My husband and I live in Germany, where ED is forbidden. We know that Ukraine isnít the best place to go, but we got interested in them because of good specialists. In addition, the price suits us. We canít go to the UK cause the clinics are too expensive there. We have certain financial problems, but we dream about a baby very much. Iíve also googled information about Kiev. It seems to be a safe place to visit. The clinicís representatives told us that weíll be met and provided with meals and apartment in Kiev.
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Old October 31st, 2016, 10:49 AM
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Ok, so you decided to deal with them cause they offer rather low prices for their services. As far as I know, cheap clinics arenít always ethical ones. They usually look for young women who need money and donít pay them enough. I donít think itís ethical. If I were you, I would make sure the donor whose eggs Iím going to use is treated well. I would also ask you how youíre going to find a donor. Will you get a donorís photo, a short description or, maybe, youíll meet the woman?
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Old November 5th, 2016, 10:37 AM
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Re: Please, help me to make a decision

I quite agree with you MaggyM. I wouldnít also deal with the clinic that frauds egg donor. The women who donate their eggs to other infertile ladies do a great job! They deserve the best from the best. I asked the program manager about the way they treat egg donors. She told me that they try to select young women who are healthy with good heredity. They must have at least one healthy child of their own. There shouldnít be any genetic diseases in their family including aunts, uncles and cousins. If we sign up a contract, weíll see donorís 3D photo. The donor gets good money compensation and all the expenses for living, medications and travelling are paid by the clinic.
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Old November 12th, 2016, 04:06 AM
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I also wouldnít recommend you to deal with cheap clinics as some of them fraud not only surrogates and egg donors but their clients too. I have a close friend who tried to deal with one Spanish clinic. The clinic was ok. They liked the services and specialists who work there, but they were charged quite a lot for the services. Firstly, it was a very reasonable sum, but then they had to pay for various tests. The last bill nearly emptied their bank accountÖ They got a baby but we left without moneyÖ
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