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Old February 26th, 2017, 11:50 PM
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What would you choose?

Being raised by your single biological mother or by an unrelated married couple?
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Old February 27th, 2017, 02:37 AM
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Re: What would you choose?

Children don't get to make that choice. Adults do. Why do you ask?
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Old February 27th, 2017, 04:36 AM
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Re: What would you choose?

I am just curious what would be better from the baby's point of view.
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Old February 27th, 2017, 04:59 AM
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Re: What would you choose?

Not having any knowledge or experience of the world, a baby has no point of view.

From an adult's experience, I can say that the baby should grow up in the environment that will provide the best chance of having a healthy, happy life. That might be with the biological mother if she can provide love, stability, safety, and the physical needs of the child. If she cannot provide those, then it might be better for the child to be placed in adoption.

Each situation is unique and there are many factors to be considered as to which is best.
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Old February 27th, 2017, 05:11 AM
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Re: What would you choose?

Yes exactly what Lucy said. You can't measure the quality of a child's upbringing and love brought to it on the basis of single mother v unrelated couple.

Parents can be good or bad whether as part of a couple or on their own, whether rich or poor, whether intelligent or uneducated.

The measure is where the parent(s) bringing up the child can offer unconditional love, a stable and emotionally secure environment, can teach values such as honesty, integrity, compassion and understanding. Can the parent meet and put the needs of the child before themselves. Being part of a couple or not is no guarantee of any of this happening.
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Old February 27th, 2017, 12:53 PM
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Re: What would you choose?

Yes, but all other things being equal - what would you choose?
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Old February 27th, 2017, 03:15 PM
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Re: What would you choose?

I don't understand why you are asking? If all things are equal - if the single mother can provide as much love, stability, safety, and can meet all of the needs of the child (emotional, physical, financial, moral) - why is this a question?

Are you really asking if a two parent home is better for a child?
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Old February 27th, 2017, 03:20 PM
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Re: What would you choose?

We need to know what's behind the question before answering further to what has been said.
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Re: What would you choose?

My curiosity. I was born in Poland, where adoption is much less popular than in USA. But in USA it is considered something normal, so I wanted to know, what ordinary people would choose: blood ties or the family structure?

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Old February 27th, 2017, 11:58 PM
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Re: What would you choose?

I'm still really confused by the question. You said "all other things being equal." If all other things were equal and a woman gave birth to a child that she could provide for (physically and emotionally), why would the question of adoption come up?

Adoption is widely accepted in the U.S., yes. I'm not sure what you mean by "popular" or "normal". Babies are not commodities that should be traded or given away.
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