Processing emotions

[snafu]

Mods - I wasn't sure where to put this, so feel free to move it


I am no longer "stuffing" my emotions and .... ho boy

I came home upset about something that had happened and ranted/vented the other night - and I'm realizing that it's ok to "explode" (but at home), but that its ok to stand up for myself (which I had done)

and while I was venting I even said my reaction was over the top/excessive


But I'm feeling good - I put my needs/wants first - nicely (I think). I remembered years ago Grubby said she'd come out "guns blazing" after holding things in, and I was able to do a good job without losing it.

[LucyVanPelt]

Go, snafu! Expressing yourself is healthy. I'm glad you are finally embracing that.

[snafu]

I've even ranted about how my NOSis ignored my needs in the past and how she's only ever listened to me a few times... that's its sad that I can count & remember each time on one hand and still have fingers left over

[snafu]

I'm standing up for myself, rather than letting things roll off my back (in one-on-one situations)


but I still need to work on what to do when someone throws (or shoves) me under the bus

[chissus]

Originally Posted by snafu

Mods - I wasn't sure where to put this, so feel free to move it


I am no longer "stuffing" my emotions and .... ho boy

I came home upset about something that had happened and ranted/vented the other night - and I'm realizing that it's ok to "explode" (but at home), but that its ok to stand up for myself (which I had done)

and while I was venting I even said my reaction was over the top/excessive


But I'm feeling good - I put my needs/wants first - nicely (I think). I remembered years ago Grubby said she'd come out "guns blazing" after holding things in, and I was able to do a good job without losing it.

Would here be a good safe place to vent?

[snafu]

Here, meaning this forum; or here, meannh this thread?

[chissus]

Originally Posted by snafu

Here, meaning this forum; or here, meannh this thread?

I don't know. You would know best. Just somewhere that we could mouth off and not be attacked for strong and maybe unreasonable feelings. Probably some rules like no personal attacks on each other and no really foul language.

Purrs and Thank You

[snafu]

chissus - start your own thread & vent away


I used to stuff my emotions and am now trying to encourage myself to process instead - but without going nuclear.

[snafu]

having some hearing loss came in handy today - as an excuse to ask someone to repeat a "you go tell _____, that _____" (I caught part of what she said - and it didn't involve me, and wasn't about to get involved in it)

well, when I told her I didn't quite catch what she said - she chose not to repeat herself ....humpfff ... this is the same person who has thrown me under the bus a few times.

No one has the right to demand that I make demands on their behalf ...