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Old January 23rd, 2013, 11:41 AM
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I'm a 40 year old woman and I live with my gf and her 4 kids. There is more to the story but i'll talk about that later. 3 girls ( teenagers) and 1 boy (11). I've been living here for a year and it hasn't been easy for any of us. Don't get me wrong...we have good times too. It's just that I went from a relationship with one other person for about 10 years to a gf with 4 kids. The fights that my gf and I get into are almost always about the kids. So I came here to talk to people who can relate.
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Old January 23rd, 2013, 12:16 PM
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Welcome. Wow, you were brave to move in with 4 children. Did you and your GF talk a out what your role regarding the kids would be before you moved in together? Is it what you expected?
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Old January 23rd, 2013, 05:02 PM
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I think you need to talk with each other about what your expectations are


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Old January 23rd, 2013, 09:20 PM
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I agree with Snafu!! I've been married almost 7 years and have one stepson. Any relationship involving children is difficult if the authority figures are not on the same page. Talk to your gf and let her know how you feel, try to figure out how the both of you can work towards adjusting their behaviors, well the ones considered innapropriate. Take it from there. Keep in mind she may take offense, but if she isn't disciplining them, maybe your feelings will help guide her. Very difficult situation. Keep us posted and good luck.
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