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Old August 18th, 2014, 08:01 AM
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Unannounced Adult Step kids stopping over

I am in dire need of advice and I feel so desolate. Hubby has adult 40+ year old son and his wife that come to our house even when were not there. I came home Sunday and they were at our house watching TV and told me they were bored at their apartment and we have better cable.

My husband wasn't home as he was golfing. He thinks it's fine that they come and use our house to wash their cars, borrow his motorcycle and hang out. We live in the Country and never lock our doors. My husband isn't supportive of my complaints. They have come over when I'm in my nightie cleaning, in the shower, sleeping etc..

The step son told me Sunday that he texted my husband like 20 times and got no response so he came over. My husband didn't respond because he WAS AT GOLF.

I called my husband and he said he would be home shortly and they went back in the livingroom to watch TV and wait.

I feel like I can't even have the private enjoyment of my own home. It feels so disrespectful.

This home is a house my husband and I bought togetherand isn't the childhood home of his 44 year old son. HELP!!!
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Old August 18th, 2014, 08:37 AM
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Re: Unannounced Adult Step kids stopping over

It is disrespectful!

How can you get your DH to understand that adult children should call before coming? I guess getting him into a "compromising position" would be out of the question?

Seriously, though... this is your home, too, and you can tell your step-son and his DW that you love them and like to see them, but they need to leave. Politely ask that they call and speak with someone before coming. Lock your doors. It won't take too many trips to find the door locked, or to be escorted out, or not let in, before they start to call first.
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Old August 18th, 2014, 10:46 AM
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Re: Unannounced Adult Step kids stopping over

There's a chunk of common courtesy that's been tossed out the window.

Hate to say it... but it looks like someone going to have to tell the 44 year old that he really shouldn't do what he's doing.
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Old August 18th, 2014, 11:35 AM
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Re: Unannounced Adult Step kids stopping over

I would start locking the doors and have a serious talk with my husband, explaining to him, that this is my home to, and this is disrespectful.

Personally, I wouldn't do this to my own mother....and wouldn't want anyone in my home when I am not there....

It isn't ok, simply b/c your husband says it is....this is about you as well...and it is unfair of him to disregard your feelings about the matter.
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