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Old May 4th, 2017, 03:30 PM
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I'm sad and hurt

I moved almost 2 years ago to another state. My mother and sister had a hard time because they live in a bubble and have been in the same place forever and will never leave. That is ok.. but why do I get an attitude because my family and I moved for a better life?

My sister hasn't visited yet at all and has no plans to.

My mother and stepdad came once and it was almost forced. I asked my mom and sister to come in may to see if we could all have just girl time.. dh will be away.. and all I heard was CRICKETS. no mention again in like I'll think about it or maybe or ok or anything.

WTF? apparently I'm being punished for moving. I have kids. I would think my mom would want to see my kids. I always am the one who has to travel to see them. I have to go again end of may but no one comes to me REALLY? I guess I'm just so hurt. and my kids will be too. I'm just sad. WHY?

My husbands family have all been here to visit more than once. me NOTHING and don't get me wrong I'm really close to my family. it's frustrating
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Re: I'm sad and hurt

Is there a reason why they might not want to visit? Too many steps? Shortage of cash? Have you tried to talk to them about it directly: "I feel as if you don't want to visit me. Is there a reason?"

Sometimes people just don't like going to new places, to travel outside of their comfort zone. Don't make their problem your personal problem.
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Re: I'm sad and hurt

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I moved almost 2 years ago to another state. My mother and sister had a hard time because they live in a bubble and have been in the same place forever and will never leave. That is ok.. but why do I get an attitude because my family and I moved for a better life?

My sister hasn't visited yet at all and has no plans to.

My mother and stepdad came once and it was almost forced. I asked my mom and sister to come in may to see if we could all have just girl time.. dh will be away.. and all I heard was CRICKETS. no mention again in like I'll think about it or maybe or ok or anything.

WTF? apparently I'm being punished for moving. I have kids. I would think my mom would want to see my kids. I always am the one who has to travel to see them. I have to go again end of may but no one comes to me REALLY? I guess I'm just so hurt. and my kids will be too. I'm just sad. WHY?

My husbands family have all been here to visit more than once. me NOTHING and don't get me wrong I'm really close to my family. it's frustrating
I would try talking to them first, before jumping to conclusions....in your first paragraph you stated this....

My mother and sister had a hard time because they live in a bubble and have been in the same place forever and will never leave. That is ok.. but why do I get an attitude because my family and I moved for a better life?

1. if they have been in the same place and don't enjoy travel and/or staying anywhere outside their comfort zone, in that you have your answer.
2. Why do you get an attitude, b/c you didn't really want to move?

You cannot depend on other people to make you happy, your the only one who can do that.

Sounds to me, like your having a bit of a time with the distance between you, could you go visit them? Maybe you could share visits...?

I'd def, talk with them, not at them or with a tude, just ask them if maybe you all could put your heads together and come up with a visiting solution. And when they come visit you, try and schedule things to to..that you know they might enjoy., i.e. theater, dinner and a movie, beach or lake, but take them sightseeing a bit. ?

How does that sound?
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