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Old September 9th, 2019, 04:02 PM
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Unhappy DM not doing well

My DM isn't doing well -hasn't since she fell the beginning of this year (while living with me & my DH).

Since moving to a senior living community she's been hospitalized twice for retaining fluid (last time was 3 weeks ago- been out for 2 weeks).

She's been lethargic, not hungry, etc. and went back in today (fluid is not the problem this time)

Last time she went in I didn't notify my sibs as DM was texting me a lot and we knew the medical personnel (kidney) just needed to take off the fluid. (DM was put out when I finally told her I didn't tell anyone)

This time, I let everyone know as she's in the heart unit.

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Old September 9th, 2019, 05:31 PM
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Old September 9th, 2019, 06:20 PM
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Re: DM not doing well

I'm to the point of .... well .... this is the 4th time this year she's been in the hospital

1) broken collar bone - Feb. (DH took her- I was at work)
2) retaining fluid -This summer (DH took her - I wasn't home)
3) retaining fluid - 3 weeks ago (her friend took her, DH later joined her waiting- I was at work)
4) unknown issue(s) -today (DH took her- I was at work)


Her quality of life has been abysmal for at least a month - if not longer.
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I'm sorry to hear your mother is doing poorly, Snafu. How is she doing today?
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Old September 10th, 2019, 09:04 PM
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Re: DM not doing well

Turns out a med change was the issue, so now they're trying something different.

She's no better, but not any worse either.
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I hope improvement is right around the corner!
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Re: DM not doing well

Should get to go home in a few more days.
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Re: DM not doing well

Uh....she's still not gone home. 😟

Had a pacemaker put in.

She's refusing to go to rehab
Dr's refusing to release her unless I can stay home with her (24/7) until she's better.
I can stay with her for 24-48 hours, but that's not long enough.
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Re: DM not doing well

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She's refusing to go to rehab
Dr's refusing to release her unless I can stay home with her (24/7) until she's better.
This is called a stalemate.

If DM needs rehab, she has to go. If she needs 24/7 care and wants to be at home, she needs to arrange home health care.

She doesn't have the right, nor the doctor, to demand that *you* stay home with her 24/7. You have your own family to worry about and going to work is part of that obligation. Of course, you'll do what you can, but you cannot do the impossible.

I'm sorry she's being so difficult, snafu. (((hugs)))
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Re: DM not doing well

Thanks


Mom went to rehab -

hopefully she won't be there more than a week (drs thought 2 weeks)
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