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Old June 4th, 2010, 12:11 PM
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Letting go ... DS & me

DS has left for a weekend scout camping trip - its his first one without either mom or dad going along. (biting nails smiley)

I don't know all the adult leadership of the troop he went with - but some have shown a lack of forethought in the past; others, accoring to my ex are good guys (ex went on a group caming trip with them in the past)


Anyway both DS & I were moody/irritable today... however, we finally had a talk & I described how he was feeling (he looked suprised that I knew & understood) - and that I was feeling the same way - then he (visibly) relaxed as I explained why I felt that way & that I knew I had to let him grow-up sometime.
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Old June 4th, 2010, 04:41 PM
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Re: Letting go ... DS & me

This letting go thing is so hard. (((((snafu)))))
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Old June 4th, 2010, 05:15 PM
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Re: Letting go ... DS & me

what make this hard it that some of the adults - um..... lack the same - is it ?ethics? as me

for example (you'll love this)

one year this troop provided that Santa, etc. for DS's pack - Santa, for a kids/cubscout party, was protrayed as being drunk


due to the location fire is not allowed at this campout - otherwise MOM would be there


I'm going to switch him to another troop - the one he wants, but conflicts with soccer (there are some issues with that troop as well , but I'd be willing to camp with that troop - I've done it before)
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Re: Letting go ... DS & me

A drunk Santa!!! WTH!! Drunk Sant, meet ticked off mom.

Ugh, I don't look forward to the letting go phase. Even right now I am having to learn to let me kids be more independent and even that is hard. Ie., let them play at the ball park and not follow an inch behind them the whole time. I still watch them, but from a distance.
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Re: Letting go ... DS & me

Letting go - some moms never "let go"

before the boys left, I was talking to the GF of DS's friend who is also going -we were talking about the kids hair styles - GF said HIS mom -age 80+ was STILL telling him what to do with his hair
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Re: Letting go ... DS & me

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GF said HIS mom -age 80+ was STILL telling him what to do with his hair
That's going to be ME!

Hope all is going well, snafu. How did you make it through last night?
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Re: Letting go ... DS & me

as far as I know the storm never hit - answered prayer

Last night/this morning as about 12:15 am -I got a call - DS wanted to come home. To make a long stroy short - I went & got him. He didn't feel well & admitted that he'd probally not drank enough water during the day. But he had a blast.


One of the guys from "Myth Busters" did a presentation/show & DS talked about it non-stop
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One of the guys from "Myth Busters" did a presentation/show & DS talked about it non-stop
How cool is that! Glad DS is home safe and sound. DD did the same thing on her first girl scout outting. We got a call around midnight. Luckliy we live only 10 minutes from the girl scount camp. We were able to pick her up and return her for breakfast the following morning. We slept better that night too!
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Re: Letting go ... DS & me

I'm letting DS (now age 13) make more of his own decisions (and face the rewards/consequences of his actions/lack of action).

Its hard.
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Re: Letting go ... DS & me

Don't let it worry you too much. It only gets worse from here!

ODS will be 18 in a few weeks. Unless I want to become an anxious old lady, I have to trust him and our parenting.

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