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Old September 25th, 2018, 05:28 AM
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Work relationships

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I have a challenge at work. The retired "expert" was offered her services to assist me in my new position. The problem is that she is going beyond assisting me. People are asking if she's back. She's there all the time. This week, she's making decisions that are no longer hers to make.

I know she is helping me. I actually do need her help with some things, but not her supervision. And she knows I don't need her supervision. She just can't leave go of "being in charge," although she does sometimes remember to defer to me.

I really think I'm dealing with someone who doesn't want to be fully retired. She loved the work. It had been her whole life for awhile. And now she's comfortable enough with me that she can come in when she feels like it. (This is not at all unusual in my line of work).

So, do I have the direct conversation with her, or wait and see how things progress before speaking up?
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Old September 27th, 2018, 05:17 AM
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Can you have a conversation with her about how long she will continue helping? Unless I saw signs or heard her talk of plans of completely bowing out, I think I'd attempt a conversation with her. Tell her that you are now comfortable with x,y, z but if she still wants to help you with a, or b, etc. that you would welcome that on occasion. And then assure her that if she wants to just go and enjoy her retirement, that "things will be fine here; that you are very thankful for all her help, but now you feel confident you can do it on your own."

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Old September 27th, 2018, 09:56 AM
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I'd give her a list of tasks I want her to do which will hopefully be less intrusive to what you need to do.
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I feel you may need to say something before it becomes a problem... wait... how long has she been "retired"?
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