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Old June 28th, 2008, 08:20 AM
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Feeling bad for a "coworker"

I volunteer at my church for a person who has been there for almost 20 years.

She decided to retire. Since this decision, it's become apparent that she had a really bad relationship with her boss. She thinks that she's entitled to be celebrated a certain way, and he's not meeting her expectations in this area.

Then, a few weeks ago, she sent out an email about having all of her old friends/volunteers meet for a social. I replied, but now I've gotten another notice in caps and all red and orange highlights demanding responses from those she who did not respond.

I feel bad for her. You can't demand to be celebrated. You can't demand people to celebrate with you. All those years in this "business," and she didn't realize that when you leave it, you are pretty much forgotten.
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Old June 28th, 2008, 11:31 AM
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Re: Feeling bad for a "coworker"

Oh, I dunno 1dil. We had a DRE at our Church who retired and moved home to take care of her ailing M. She worked there for about 20 years, quit 5 years ago and is sorely, SORELY missed. The parents got together and bought an angel statue in her honor and had it inscribed and placed in a garden at the school. She is not forgotten; I personally mention her monthly at least.

Then again, she didn't send out any e-mails demanding the recognition.
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Old June 28th, 2008, 09:20 PM
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Re: Feeling bad for a "coworker"

Does she know all caps is equal to shouting?

I'd feel sorry for her but what can you do in a practical way? Help round people up? The shouting was probably a turn of to attending.

Demanding people celebrate you is rather bad form. Poor lady. Is she off to something she'll enjoy or is she dreading going and wanting to make the most of this last hurrah?
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Old June 29th, 2008, 05:18 AM
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Re: Feeling bad for a "coworker"

She's got other plans. She just retired from this position, but will be doing other things. She's really good at what she does, but it's ministry, so it can't be about our egos. These past few years, I've heard a lot of, "Don't they know who I am?"

You're right KayKay, there are some who are sorely missed. Those tend not to be the ones that have an "all about me" attitude.

Her friends did organize a gathering for her. She was given flowers, a cash gift, and some personal notes from the children. I think I'd be satisfied with that.
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