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Old May 18th, 2018, 02:20 AM
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My best friend is courting me.

More than a year ago, I met this patient and faithful guy in a local church gathering. I wasn’t expecting that he’d become my best friend since I see it as so good to be true. Little did I know that I’ll fall in love with him as time goes by and that the feeling is actually mutual. Last Sunday, he confessed his feelings to me and I felt so unmoved. I just can’t explain it-- I believe I’m falling for him badly. I really wanted to give my “yes” to him but I’m quite afraid of one thing: that he’ll see me as “no way better” than his ex. Her ex broke up with him last 2016, ditched her with another guy and got married. I love him but I just don’t want to become a bandage for his wounded heart. Shall this prevent us from going into the next level or shall I strip my fear away? I badly need some advice.
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Old May 18th, 2018, 05:30 AM
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Re: My best friend is courting me.

That was 2 years ago. Nothing heals the heart better than time and love. Don't let your fear get in the way of that.
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Old May 19th, 2018, 12:27 PM
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Re: My best friend is courting me.

I'm with Lucy - go for it....
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Old May 21st, 2018, 08:43 AM
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Re: My best friend is courting me.

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That was 2 years ago. Nothing heals the heart better than time and love. Don't let your fear get in the way of that.
Do you think he's already moved on? If so, I will say yes to him. But I'm just afraid about some possibilities.
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Old May 21st, 2018, 08:45 AM
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Re: My best friend is courting me.

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I'm with Lucy - go for it....
Thanks for this. It's just that I'm afraid of the possibilities. I love him, really. And I think he's the right one for me.
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Old May 21st, 2018, 08:50 AM
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Re: My best friend is courting me.

If he has confessed his feelings to you, then it sounds like he has already moved on from his ex.

The part I wonder about is why you were "unmoved" when he confessed his feelings?
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