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Old June 25th, 2017, 07:26 PM
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Thumbs down arrrgggg! DM

This only happens occasionally....sigh.... when DM doesn't feel good she trys to pick fights with me ....

sadly this isn't a new thing - she did it when I was a kid too (I learned when she was getting a migraine before she realized she was getting one, 'cause nothing I did was right)

- I'm not going to let her yell at me, nor am I willing to yell back ... I either go to my room or to the basement.



I feel I should start documenting things and mail the info to mom's Dr.

ex:

- DH goes grocery shopping, DM will claim there is nothing to eat (this has happened multiple times)

- we have left over night ... I tell DM what her options are, she requests something that is no longer in the fridge (and wasn't mentioned).... even after being told it isn't there she'll insist that it is .... until about the 5th repetition
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Old June 25th, 2017, 07:57 PM
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Re: arrrgggg! DM

I feel your pain, snafu.

Keeping notes on your DM's behavior might identify a problem.

I wish you luck on avoiding the fight!
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Old June 25th, 2017, 10:35 PM
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Re: arrrgggg! DM

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- DH goes grocery shopping, DM will claim there is nothing to eat (this has happened multiple times)

- we have left over night ... I tell DM what her options are, she requests something that is no longer in the fridge (and wasn't mentioned).... even after being told it isn't there she'll insist that it is .... until about the 5th repetition
I don't know your mom, snafu, but these sound to me kind of like passive, hint-around ways that she's trying to tell you something. Do you think it could be that? I noticed sometimes people who aren't used to asking for what they want don't even know how to do it.

Does she ask for particular things when DH grocery shops? Maybe she's used to snacking on something that isn't there.

Does she ask for particular leftovers be saved for her for leftover night?

Curiously, both of your examples revolve around food. Has she adapted her eating style to your household's fairly well?
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Old June 26th, 2017, 05:16 PM
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Re: arrrgggg! DM

Mom will add a few things to the grocery list

Part of the reason she needed to move in was that she wasn't eating, nothing sounded good.


...mom was married to my Pita dad for years....he was the type to do the opposite of what he thought you wanted
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Re: arrrgggg! DM

So do you think your examples are a sign of an illness? Dementia maybe? Or do you think she doesn't feel like eating and is trying to think of an "out?"

Has she been eating better since being at your house?
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Re: arrrgggg! DM

She has been eating better, and gained some weight


Other than that I don't know\understand why she is the way she is.
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Re: arrrgggg! DM

Well, it seems that your dad trained her to not express her real wishes.
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