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Old September 23rd, 2009, 07:09 PM
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When DSD goes to college

DSD will be heading to college in a few years. Any suggestions on how to ease both DH & DSD into the transition/seperation?

We've got about 10 yr before we have to think about my DS.
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Old September 24th, 2009, 03:50 AM
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Re: When DSD goes to college

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The whole change to grown up comes about by degrees,

It is not easy to watch the kids pull away but by the time college
days come you will have got used to a different sort of relatiionship with your
DSson. It will be nearly harder with the younger child when his time comes.
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Old September 24th, 2009, 04:39 AM
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The whole change to grown up comes about by degrees,
This is spot on. If the parent and child are not fighting the change and allowing it to happen gradually, going off to college will be just a natural progression. The change will still be bittersweet, but it won't be shock.
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Re: When DSD goes to college

8 weeks until she starts


it'll be strange around here when she's gone & DS is at his dad's (everyother weekend)
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Re: When DSD goes to college

*KayKay puts her fingers in her ears* Can't heeeeear you!! (DS leaves in 2 and DD leaves in 4 years) It will definitely be strange. Although, I do have to admit that I've started noticing more local events that I'd like to attend.
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Old June 23rd, 2011, 04:58 PM
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Re: When DSD goes to college

shoot - we could have a partaaay (with strawberry daiquries)

Maybe got to Pat O'Briens in the French Quarter (& pretend we're in college)
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Re: When DSD goes to college

Wow! I was ready to throw a party when my kids moved out. It was my wife who got all meloncholy and stuff.

Not me, I was...
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Re: When DSD goes to college

I'm not really excited that kids will be gone, but rather I'll be able to do my own thing, rather than running kids to sports, activites, dr apts, etc, etc.

Every other weekend will be MINE (unless work interfears )
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Re: When DSD goes to college

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I'm not really excited that kids will be gone, but rather I'll be able to do my own thing, rather than running kids to sports, activites, dr apts, etc, etc.

Every other weekend will be MINE (unless work interfears )
I think thats the best way to look at it! plus there is always this thing called the phone...and if you want to be a freaking SUPER MOM! you learn how to text! I swear me along with other kids our age (18-25) like to text a lot more often and its easier to respond to.

Most of the times we are studying, working, or out with friends. So we don't pick up the phone because of the background noise or its not a good time. Plus sometimes parents like to talk our ears off which means we literally have to wait until we are away from friends and all alone before we can have that happen.

Also with a text you could figure out what is the best time to get a hold of them without being so worried about them. I am more likley to respond to a text message then a voicemail my mom put on my phone. Because I would feel weird about calling my mom and going "hey mom ill call you back later" *tons of noises surrounding in the background* (it just worries her even more.) I just thought you could get a good perspective from the kids side and hope it helps.
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Re: When DSD goes to college

Thanks, supermatt! My oldest is going into his senior year. Between work and his hobby, he's gone all day now. I don't see him much at all. He could have move out and just leave his laundry here and I'd never know the difference. I think we're going to turn text messaging on so I can at least know he still lives here.

And I think it's time to teach him to do his own laundry.
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