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Old October 28th, 2019, 09:09 PM
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Letting go of unauthentic relationships - 40s

Hi Everyone-
I'm turning 40 next year and just contemplating about relationships and life.
I recently went through a spiritual transformation and no longer wish to have negativity in my life and decided to start cleaning house. It was as if someone put another pair of glasses on me and now I'm clear with that I want.
I've de-attached myself from many people who claim to be there for me through thick and thin. Only finding out it was all a lie, when rubbers meets the road.

I'm look for perspective and for people to share their experience with friendships.
Do friendships start drifting away? As anyone tried rebuilding their group of friends and what were some of things you had to do? Or do you stick people that you grew up with? I'm sure there's no right or wrong way. Just looking for inspiration.
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Old October 30th, 2019, 03:07 PM
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Re: Letting go of unauthentic relationships - 40s

Hi, lilly210,

You have some very good questions!

I have found that some friendships just drift away. Some are more like the tide, they come and go as we have time and need. Others end in a big explosion!

I have some newer friends that I really clique with at this time in my life and I have good friends that I've been friends with since high school. The new ones are great for doing things together because they are convenient, but I don't rely on them for real support.

My old friends are there for support, but I've left a few of them behind. I don't have any bad feelings or ill will. I just have accepted that we don't have anything in common, I can't provide them with the kind of friendship they need, and they are kind of a drag.

That's my experience with friendships at this stage in life.
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Old November 12th, 2019, 09:30 AM
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Re: Letting go of unauthentic relationships - 40s

Congrats on seeing people for who they are.

Also for having friends IRL, I have work "friends" that's it, so I have no suggestions.
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Old March 19th, 2020, 02:43 AM
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Re: Letting go of unauthentic relationships - 40s

Real friends don't necessarily have to be people you grew up with. Sometimes, you'll meet people who will turn out to be the best people in the world for you. I just think that the real ones will stick with you no matter what.
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