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Old August 25th, 2015, 07:45 PM
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Re: Bank of Snafu

I'm glad for that, but snafu -

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In the future I will send a copy of any tuition statement to ex & pay my part. If ex doesn't pay his part DS will need to discuss it with him.
How about in the future, the institution sends a copy of any tuition statements to both you and your ex and you step out of the gatekeeper role?
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Old August 26th, 2015, 06:51 AM
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How about in the future, the institution sends a copy of any tuition statements to both you and your ex and you step out of the gatekeeper role?
Agree. I have to comply with custody agreements and so I sometimes sent out 2 report cards, 2 bills, etc. Even though DH and I are married, my boys' college tuition bills go to them. It's their responsibility to come to us to pay the bill.
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Old August 26th, 2015, 07:29 PM
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How about in the future, the institution sends a copy of any tuition statements to both you and your ex and you step out of the gatekeeper role?
You can do that?


Thanks "guys" ... I really appreciate the help/suggestions in navigating this stuff.
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Re: Bank of Snafu

My kids' schools always had to do it. Bills, grades, notices about upcoming parent meetings... even anything the PTA sent out had to be sent to both households. That's why I knew about it.

AFIK, doctor's offices, dentists, etc... they all do it too. It is not uncommon.
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Other than school junk I never realize I could have others send ex his own copies.
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Other than school junk I never realize I could have others send ex his own copies.
Well, now you know, and just in time. The last high school years and college are the most expensive!
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Re: Bank of Snafu

One of my friends had the orthodontist send her ex a copy of the bill. That way she had proof that she had paid her half and he had been notified of his half, and they chased after HIM instead of her.
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Ok - last ortho payment was last Jan.

My divorce decree stated that for med bills ex would pay me his share within 30 days of being given proof that I'd paid a bill.


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Re: Bank of Snafu

here we go again

cliff notes: DS is going on a school trip, ex has made his payments for his share to the school .... until now .... the last payment is due next week & ex told DS (over the weekend) that he didn't have the money (right then). {I made my last payment early - was afraid I'd mess up & forget}

IF the school doesn't have ex's share recorded as paid by Fri. I'm taking DS to the bank so he (DS) can make the last payment.


DH is being my rock ....
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Re: Bank of Snafu

I don't know what to say about this.

X should pay the bill. DS shouldn't have to compensate for his father. How sad.

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