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Old March 1st, 2017, 09:21 AM
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Re: Can teenagers be good parents?

Hi, would I raise the baby or put him on adoption? Everyone’s situation is different, assessing your situation will help you decide whether an adoption plan is best for you and your child. If raising a child as a single parent is financially hard, the government is offering any kind of help for mothers and children. Having family or friends who provide practical support can make being a young parent a bit easier.
What would I do if my teenage child found themselves in such a situation?
I found this article that says, as a parent of teen having a baby, recognize your feelings and work through them so that you can accept and support your teen. Being angry and disappointed are common. You might have a strong flood of emotions to deal with, especially at first. But the reality of upcoming baby means that you will have to get beyond your initial feelings for the sake of your teen and his child.
Thank you for sharing.
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Re: Can teenagers be good parents?

Considering that people married and became parents as teens for most of human history, they can be good parents.

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Re: Can teenagers be good parents?

I would raise the baby but I know it is not going to be easy.
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Old August 29th, 2017, 05:32 AM
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Re: Can teenagers be good parents?

My initial view for this question will be NO.

Teens cannot make good parents and the kids grow up to be damaged or are abandoned when they are born.

But things will be different if there's proper financial backing and emotional support from the families. Teenage pregnancy has become quite common in the US and not everyone is fortunate to get good families.
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Old January 18th, 2018, 03:54 AM
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Re: Can teenagers be good parents?

I happened to see this and will comment, though I don't know if Karolina is still here reading. There is no simple answer about whether a teen can be a good parent. Certainly, at least a few have succeeded at this, but I think the majority of them don't successfully do it by themselves. Technically, it is not fair (to society) to have a baby you cannot afford through working to support it without welfare, or without your family (your own parents, etc.) helping you.

I have actually read forum comments elsewhere, where many teens commented on this sort of thing, or other parents that became parents as teens, usually defending the idea saying teens can be good parents, and stating they were great parents themselves when this happened. Somehow they gloss over, or leave out the part that either society, or other family members (somebody not involved in directly making the baby) has to substantially help support the baby, providing shelter, food, living expenses.

I got married at age 19 and had my first child at 21. I don't think that was hugely different than being a teen parent but my XH and I did support our own kids without asking for family help.

My son became a parent at age 19 and his wife was 18, barely out of high school. He also worked from the very start to support their family but they still needed a ton of help, mostly from my husband and I. Teens who do not have this kind of help from parents or society really struggle with their own immaturity and providing what their child needs. I am glad some give their baby a chance for a better life through adoption but I would never tell any individual to do that without knowing more about the situation.

As far as being loving and nurturing, and having common sense to care for a baby, sure some teens can be successful, and some, sadly are not up for this. But I think back on my own experiences as a young mother, and there were some things I probably would have done differently if I were older and more mature, but that is probably true at whatever age one is when they have their first child.
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Re: Can teenagers be good parents?

Thanks rattlesnake. I love having the perspective of someone who has lived it. Karolina hasn't been back for a while, but people still read the thread. So it's great to have your POV posted.
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