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#11
November 30th, 2016, 07:17 PM
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(((snafu)))
Lucy is right. You have a very important role in DS's life. You may not get to suffer through, er, uh, go to tank museums with DS, but you are his rock.
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#12
January 3rd, 2017, 12:15 PM
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 I think DS sees me as "The Parent" aka she who is not fun but makes sure he gets to do fun stuff like band trips (Disney, Chicago) - and will pay out the nose for the college he wants (well, he'd like me to) ...and he sees his dad (my ex) as his financially irresponsible friend that he has fun with. (that he won't even discuss college with)
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#14
January 3rd, 2017, 02:45 PM
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^^ Yep.
I asked DH to address a problem with one of the kids. He had two weeks to do it, but instead he played pool, had a beer, binge watched... He never mentioned it. I finally addressed it yesterday. I'm the serious parent. He's the playmate. But, they respect me and they know that I'm there when something is serious. I just tell them, every comedienne needs a straight man or the joke falls flat. 
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#15
December 18th, 2017, 07:38 PM
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Oh boy, empty nest is hitting really bad.
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December 19th, 2017, 05:59 AM
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#18
December 20th, 2017, 12:27 PM
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sigh.... I'm trying (note trying) to think positively
Anyway - its that time of year when DS prefers his dad's family & I'm realizing that if/when he has a family I'll most likely never see DS (or his family) for the holidays ....
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#20
December 20th, 2017, 05:59 PM
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(((hugs)))
At the point where DS has a place (then family) of his own, you will most likely be welcome to celebrate holidays with him, snafu. It may be a weekend before deal, but you will see him (especially if you are willing to travel to him). Right now he wants to spend holidays with X's family because he loves and misses them. Once he moves out on his own, you will also be someone he loves and misses and wants to spend holidays with. Take care of yourself. Do something this weekend to nurture your soul.
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