Bank of Snafu

[LucyVanPelt]

Cash must accompany orders for our school fund raisers. Do you have that same rule?

[KayKay]

Yeah, don't deal with it, snafu. Don't come to DS's rescue or let your DH come to his rescue either. You might want to discuss this with your DH up-front so that he's not unexpectedly put in a position where his big heart wants to help DS. Tell DS that the order needs to have the $$ submitted with it and he'd better get it from his dad or his dad's friend up front or the school won't accept the order.

[snafu]

I actually had a talk with DH this morning - to keep it short, here's the gist

- I wasn't willing to cover ex or his friends
- my stress/frustration was high, & I didn't like it
- when I'd tried to stop it, you (DH) made the offer to cover, was he extending it to ex's friends?
- DH now says he has enough of his own resposibilities and doesn't want to deal with it/is not going to involve himself anymore


I emailed Mr. Band Teacher - $$ is due tomorrow (I wonder if he said anything to his classes)

ex came to town for school event that DS was in tonight, when he called to let us know he was on his way, DS told him that he needed the $ & that it was due tomorrow (I wasn't home - I had errands)

ex paid for both his & "friend's" orders

[KayKay]

[LucyVanPelt]

That's great!

[snafu]

sigh - yearbook order forms have come home and I've ordered one for home. DS wants me to order on for his dad ... I've told him "no" repeatedly.

DS keeps saying he's forgotten to tell his dad - oh well. Tonight DS said it was his fault that his dad's repayment was lated the last time as he'd forgotten the check in his travle bag (from when DH had covered for ex). That's not how I remember it, ex was late & DS misplacing it made it even later.


The Bank of Snafu is c.l.o.s.e.d!

[snafu]

Originally Posted by snafu

ex discovered tonight the "Bank of Snafu" is closed - and I feel/felt like a heel.

....snip....

I left ex an hour away from the town he lives in - he had to contact someone else to help him out.

DS & I talked about it on the way home .... about the fact that, in the past, when I'd loaned his dad money for school pictures, covered the restaraunt bill, etc... I had to keep asking his dad for the $ and it made me feel bad/I'd get sick to my stomic. I was trying to do what was best for me, rather than making other people happy and myself miserible. I told DS that I felt bad right now, but I don't know how I'll feel about it a month from now.

I feel better about things now - hopefully there won't be any repeats

[snafu]

I think that DS has learned not to let his dad order stuff, he has a new order form and didn't even bother taking it to his dad's.

[snafu]

I need suggestions on how to talk with DS, so that he doesn't become a "bank"

[Knot2loud]

I think you already know what to say.

Bank of SNAFU? How's 'bout a loan sweetie!